Hi, I’m Joyce

I help tech founders find their life partner

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I’ve helped 100+ people date effectively and find life partners.

  • Principal Engineer

    “I'd been single for 7 years and on and off the apps for 5. I'm now not only happily married but also more confident and outgoing overall. I'd recommend Joyce in a heartbeat.”

  • MIT Alum

    “Joyce helped me achieve goals I didn't think were possible in 3 months. I went from having a terrible time on dating apps to starting a meaningful relationship. I’m now engaged.”

  • Dave Fontenot

    “Joyce helped me get a ton of clarity on who I'm looking for.”

  • Harvard Alum

    “3 months after I started working with Joyce, I found my now-boyfriend. I would not be where I am today — happily in a meaningful relationship — without her. If finding a life partner is your #1 priority, I 10/10 recommend Joyce.”

  • Founding Engineer

    “After 3 months of coaching, I started seriously dating someone I had a really strong connection with. What I didn't expect were the sessions themselves. I felt so supported and understood.”

  • a16z-backed Founder

    "Joyce helped me move my life's plot forward. When I started working with her, I’d never been in a long-term relationship and was insecure about my lack of experience. I'm now in my first long-term relationship."

  • Stanford Founder

    "I've gone on more dates in the last 6 months than the past 6 years. Joyce offers a practical, systematic approach that takes the guesswork out of dating and helps Type A overachievers like me make progress just as I'd approach other parts of life."

  • Founding Engineer, ex-Airbnb

    "After 6 months of coaching, I’m now in a loving, secure relationship and have stronger self-worth and self-belief. Working with Joyce is the best investment I've made in myself in recent years."

  • YC Founder

    “Within 6 months of working with Joyce, I turned my dating life around. I went on more dates more regularly than I had in years. I even progressed to a months-long connection with someone I was excited about, faster than I ever thought possible.”

  • Tesla Staff Engineer

    When I started with Joyce, I was burned out and stuck after a string of mediocre dates. I'd read dating books, but Joyce gave me concrete examples and constructive feedback that actually changed how I showed up on dates. She helped me get comfortable being vulnerable, which opened the door to deeper connection. I'm now dating someone exclusively.

  • Felix

    After 2 years of online dating and a few surface-level relationships, I was losing confidence in my process. I'm now several months into the deepest relationship I've had. I’m clear on what I'm looking for and how to find it. What I valued most about working with Joyce was the emphasis on self-sufficiency and creating a process I can iterate on myself.

About me

I’ve helped 100+ people date effectively and find life partners, including VC-backed founders and OpenAI & Anthropic execs.

I coach men & women, straight & LGBT folks, divorcés, parents, serial monogamists, people who’ve been on 100s of dates, and folks who’ve never had a relationship. I specialize in coaching highly analytical, high-achieving individuals who approach dating with the same drive as they do their careers.

I was single for five years and fascinated by how hard dating was. I tried dating apps and matchmakers, hired four dating coaches, and took two dating classes. What ultimately helped me meet my husband and develop a lasting relationship was learning to accurately filter for compatible matches, master emotional connection and conflict resolution, and cultivate unconditional self-confidence. My goal is for you to do the same.

Before coaching, I was a product manager at Stripe and studied engineering at MIT.

How I work

I help clients get over exes, define ambitious yet realistic standards, find more and better matches, deepen connections past third dates, decide who to commit to, and build a lasting relationship.

I work on a monthly retainer, similar to an executive coach. The monthly retainer includes:

  • Four 1:1 sessions on whatever's most alive for you that week

  • Tailored action items after each session to keep you progressing toward your goals

  • Text support between sessions for time-sensitive questions

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FAQ

  • Founders, executives, and investors who bring the same intentionality to their personal lives as their careers. My clients are growth-minded, process-oriented, and high-agency. They don't just want to "find someone." They want to build an exceptional life partnership and are ready to do the outer and inner work to get there.

  • Many clients notice meaningful shifts within the first few sessions, including clarity on what they're looking for or better matches. We track progress through both outer milestones (match quality, dates with long-term potential) and inner shifts (how you make decisions, trust yourself, connect with dates). While some clients find their person in three months and others unfold their growth over a year or more, all of my clients make meaningful progress toward their dating goals.

  • Consider me a member of your personal board of directors. Reach out whenever you want input, including on a text thread, profile draft, or date debrief. I respond within 1-2 days. You can also book spot coaching sessions for time-sensitive situations. All of this is included in your monthly retainer.

  • Most clients spend a few hours per week outside of sessions refining their profile, debriefing dates, or doing inner work like journaling or reflection. The goal is to make every hour you spend on dating more effective. I've worked with busy executives who were surprised by how much progress they made.

  • We start with an initial 3-month commitment to ensure we have runway to create meaningful results. After that, we continue month-to-month. Some clients work with me for several months; others stay on for a year or more, including after they've started dating someone. I focus on delivering a transformative experience and trust that it will turn into a long-term relationship when coaching is going well for both of us.

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